EFT Couples Therapy in California

You keep having the same disagreement—caught in the same pattern

It might start with something small—an assumption, a tone, or timing.
But it quickly turns into frustration, shutdown, or avoidance.

And afterward, you’re left feeling…
unheard, misunderstood, or alone in the relationship.

What’s really happening within and between the two of you

Most couples don’t come in because they “don’t know how to communicate.”

They come in because something deeper isn’t connecting.

At the core, many partners are asking—often without saying it directly:

• Are you there for me?

• When I’m upset, do you turn toward me—or away?

• When I reach for you, do you respond?

• Do I matter to you in those moments?

When the answer feels unclear or inconsistent, couples begin to fall into patterns:

• One person pushes or pursues

• The other shuts down or pulls away

• And both end up feeling disconnected

How I work with you

In our sessions, we slow these moments down so we can see what’s happening in real time.

We also begin to understand each of your attachment styles—how you respond to closeness, conflict, and emotional needs—and how those patterns interact with each other.

Instead of focusing on who’s right, we:

• Notice the pattern you’re both caught in

• Understand what each of you needs underneath the reaction

• Help you express that in a way your partner can hear and respond to

This isn’t about learning scripts.
It’s about creating moments where you can be vulnerable—and begin to truly understand each other.

What starts to change

Over time, couples begin to experience:

• Less reactivity and fewer escalations

• More clarity about what each person needs

• Conversations that feel calmer and more meaningful

• A stronger sense of being on the same team

That question—“Are you there for me?”—starts to feel more consistently answered.

Who this is for

• Couples who feel stuck in the same conflict cycle

• Partners who feel disconnected, even if things “look fine” on the outside

• Couples navigating stress, life transitions, or rebuilding trust

• Those who want a deeper emotional connection—not just better communication

Private Pay

Couples therapy in my practice is private pay.

This allows us to focus fully on your relationship—
with the time, depth, and flexibility needed to do meaningful work.

Get started

If you’re ready to feel more connected, understood, and supported in your relationship—